Dear Dr. Brilliant Cliché,
I am a nurse who works with pregnant teens. I really don’t care about Miley Cyrus's butt and I have no idea why everyone else seems to but I do have a serious concern. She said of herself in an interview that the purpose of her racy behavior was that she wanted to destroy her childlike image and now be seen as an adult. Her performance of hanging out her tongue and waving her butt around was done amongst giant teddy bears.
My issue is that she is saying is to be an adult as a female is to be overtly sexual.
The irony is that kids have sex so they can feel like adults, then they get pregnant and have to stay at home because they need help from their parents to raise their child. This does nothing but increase their dependency on others for the next 15 years, until their kids have kids.
What can we as a society do to challenge this reality?
Dear Mrs. C,
Being an adult means being responsible for the consequences of your choices. Children pass the consequences of their choices on to to other people. One can be a child at any age.
Remember- sexuality is a normal and natural part of being human and growing up, In order to avoid premature experimentation, one needs to have other avenues to explore and other choices to make.
As a parent one needs to keep kids busy and involved. Teens need to feel useful. They learn through what they are involved in and by observing their role models. No teen should have the time to watch MTV. I am not sure how effective the messages are that are taught in high school health class- carrying a baby doll around and pretending it's real, for instance. However, volunteer work and social advocacy can make a difference.
Yes, occasionally teens get exposed to poor role models, and it's not just rock stars. Some of our past presidents were poor role models too. Activities such as Miley Cyrus's are fairly rare, which is why the incident made the news.
Dr. Brilliant Cliché
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Granny says: I just love it when people say "what can we as a society do?" as if society was going to get together and plan something.
We as society can do nothing, because society is an abstract collective noun that refers to a bunch of people who mostly don't know each other and would probably disagree if they did.
Stop worrying about Miley Cyrus and her butt. She looked absurd and even her best friend, Kelly Osborne, told her to put her tongue back in her mouth.
Kids who have a good head on their shoulders are perfectly capable of making their own decisions. The ones you are working with are facing far larger problems than some publicity hungry singer's antics. They were probably given bad role models in their own homes that set them on their way, not from the TV.
My advice to Mrs. Consequence is to role model the behavior she believes in and stop fretting needlessly. There is nothing any of us can do to change an abstract concept. We can only change ourselves, and take care of our own business. All you did with your question, Mrs. Consequence, was to give Miley some more publicity.